It’s no surprise to me that over 50 million people worldwide use Tinder. The search for love or the occasional random “date” has never been easier. All you need to do is swipe right or left. Tinder in no way guarantees love, but a shot at it at least, besides, nothing in life is really guaranteed.
I found love on Tinder, but with Tinder and anything else in life, it’s all a numbers game. If you are serious about finding true love you have to put in the work. You have to put in the time to self reflect, research (or get to know somebody), figure out what you want, and go on TONS of dates. Some dates will be great and some will just be TERRIBLE. Trust me, I know! I’ve got the stories, but we’ll save that for another blog. The outcome can be amazing and you could find yourself in a happy and loving relationship that can last a lifetime. But you still have to put in the work before and after you find that special somebody. Your significant other won’t just pop out of the clouds with a crystal shoe like Cinderella. Working out is no different, it’s a numbers game, and you have to put in the work.
Our society just looks for a quick fix when it comes to fitness. Try this new pill, use this waist trimmer belt, go keto and skip carbs, do “fasted” cardio, fast, and my all-time favorite, go on a juice cleanse and drink tea. Tinder itself is an easier fix to find true love or whatever it is you are looking for, it’s a tool to help you succeed. Well, friends, the gym (or your at home gym routine) is your app or tool to get you to be the best version of your healthy self. Just like Tinder, there is no quick fix to being healthy. If you put in the work you’ll get the results you want.
So before you think about the quick fixes in the world ask yourself this “how badly do you want it? Are you willing to put in the work to see the results?” Are you dedicated to swiping left or right or spending an hour or so at the gym? The more you go on Tinder, or the more you work out the better your odds are of reaching your goals. It doesn’t matter when you swipe, or when you go to the gym as long as you go. Put in the time, put in the effort, and treat each day and new date with positivity that THIS IS GETTING YOU ONE STEP CLOSER TO YOUR DESTINATION! Each bad date teaches you something and each tough workout will help you build more dedication and consistency.
Sometimes we fall down, sometimes it’ll be hard, sometimes the dates will be just another story for your friends to laugh at. You might need to reset and take a break for a minute, you might need to self reflect to find your “why” again, and you might even need to delete Tinder and use Match or Coffee Meets Bagel. You might need to change up your fitness classes, change gyms, or do yoga instead. Either way, you are depositing into your happiness account and eventually, the results will show.
Basically what I’m saying is, it doesn’t matter how you get there, you just need to keep working at it. Waking up to do “fasted” cardio or doing your cardio after work at 5pm won’t matter, what matters is you showed up and you put yourself out there and did the WORK.
If you are struggling with your fitness journey, don’t worry, the more you practice it (like dating and job interviews) the better you’ll get at it (and I don’t mean better at working out…well that too…but the more it’ll become your habit). If you are doubting yourself and struggling with your health, I’m here to tell you, it will all work out the way it is supposed to. As long as you keep showing up, putting in the work, you will get what you want in life.
Just maybe, when you expect it the least you’ll find yourself so incredibly happy because you finally realized it’s about growing as a person and finding love within and loving yourself is the best love of all. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you?